How to Handle a Job Rejection

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We tend to get so excited when we apply for a job. We are even more thrilled when called for an interview because then we are able to prove ourselves and show how much value we can bring to the table. There you are with the interviewer and all he’s doing is praising you for a good CV and excellent scores in your tests. You are told to wait for feedback in a few days and you’re already excited about what’s to come. When you get feedback, it’s a job rejection email. A rejection email can be disappointing especially if it is one of those standard rejection letters that do not delve into the reason for the rejection.

It can be a very stressful situation that if not handled properly, can lead to a loss of self-confidence. Most of us apply for so many jobs before we land our dream job. It’s usually so disappointing when you constantly apply and you never get it. Your CV and cover letter are all updated and your grades are also perfect. It’s important not to take rejection personally as it’s a stepping stone to greater things.

How should you react to a rejection email?

Write a follow-up email


Don’t get mad for not getting the job instead be gracious for having the opportunity to be in the group of shortlisted candidates. Ask the hiring manager/HR if they could consider you for a future position. State that despite being disappointed you congratulate those that got the job.

A follow-up letter will help you stand out as not many people take their time to write a gratitude letter after failing to get past the interview. Indicate that you would still be willing to work with the company in the future. Note that if you were not impressed by the company, writing a gratitude letter is not necessary as you would not like to work with them in the future.

Know that it’s not always about you

Landing a job depends on a lot of factors. You may have the personality and the brains but someone else may be better qualified or well connected with the people in the organization. Additionally, the decision to pick someone else instead of you is not a choice against you. It’s important to treat this situation as a learning experience and move on. Develop yourself and improve on the skills that the interviewer thought you lacked.

Note that there are many factors that go into choosing the right candidate for the job. Most of which are beyond your control and as a result, you should not be too hard on yourself.

It’s also good to note that not everyone usually gets a reply after applying for a job. Therefore, a rejection letter proves that despite not getting hired, you still caught the attention of the hiring manager.

Develop new tactics


A rejection should be a learning experience. Learn where you went wrong and improve. Always tailor your CV in a way that suits the job that you are applying for. If you were nervous and not prepared for the previous interview, learn from that and do enough research the next time you are called for another one. It’s paramount to stay true to your personality and experience.

Have a second plan

As the job market becomes tight and unpredictable, it is always good to have a second plan. This will ensure that you have something to fall back on to, when your initial plan fails. This is hard for first time job seekers and that is why it is important to approach a job interview with an open mind. Always know that anything can happen and do not pin all your hopes on one job interview. Rejection does not mean the end of the road.

Keep your options open.

Ask for constructive feedback


As we have already established, most companies write standard rejection letters that do not offer any insights on why you particularly missed the opportunity. This can be attributed to the fact that employers interview many candidates and it is tedious to give specific feedback to every interviewee.

However, there is no harm in requesting for constructive feedback after rejection. You can do this by writing a short email to the recruiting manager. A standard rejection email is not feedback and that is why it is advisable to request for detailed feedback once you get the rejection email. Once you get the feedback, take it positively and apply it to future interviews to enhance your chances of landing a job. Constructive feedback also helps you to know your weaknesses and work on them so that you improve your chances of getting a job on your next interview. Life is a continuous learning process.

Life is a continuous learning process.

Learn and Practice

Keep an open mind and always be eager to learn. If it’s an IQ test that you did and you failed to attain the pass mark, begin to look at similar IQ tests and find out how other companies do their interviews. Practice with aptitude tests too and consult those who are more experienced in the field that you want to venture into. A wise man once said that practice makes perfect. The more you do something the better you’ll be at it. Learn from your mistakes and don’t dwell on them as these will only make you self-conscious.

Another learning area is how to tailor your CV accordingly. Every job interview looks for different skills in a prospective employee. It is important to take the feedback you get and apply it to improve your CV writing and interview skills. This will improve your chances of getting that dream job you have been chasing.

Analyse the job interview and see where you may have gone wrong

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As much as there are many factors, outside your control that may have led to a rejection, there are also many factors within your control that may have resulted in a rejection. For example, maybe you were too nervous during the interview which made it difficult for you to respond to the questions properly.

It is important to objectively review your conduct during the interview so that you can know what you need to improve on. A detailed feedback may not always be easy to get and this is why it is important for you to also have an objective look at the interview, once you get a rejection email. However, be careful not to over-analyze the situation. Most people play and replay the interview episodes in their mind while trying to find the problem. This can be detrimental as you can create non-existent problems.

Accept the situation


A rejection can be devastating and if not taken positively, it can lead to depression. It is okay to feel sad and even annoyed if you are rejected for that job that you have been aiming for. Take your time to process the emotions then accept that rejection is part of life. It may have been your dream job but missing it should not spell doom for your future and your skills.

Do whatever you have to do to overcome the sadness. It is allowed. Then, take everything in your stride and accept that you lost the opportunity due to many factors, some of which are beyond your control. Acceptance also helps you to tackle future interviews objectively because a rejection can often lead to lack of confidence, which has the real danger of affecting how you perform in future interviews.

In conclusion, rejection should not spell doom on your career. A job rejection is caused by many factors, most of which are beyond your control. The best way to move on is to take it as a learning opportunity and use the experience to tackle future job interviews successfully.

Roselinda Awinda


    • Yes there is hope Caroline, and we are here for you. Have your credentials right and keep on applying and one day it will totally be a different story.


    • Thanks Stephen,
      We are pleased that you are all geared up and ready for the next stage.
      We wish you all the best and that this time around you will be successful.


    • Thanks Rose,
      When you are rejected it doesn’t mean that you quit, you press on to move to the next step and avoid to repeating the same mistakes.
      All the best and keep it here for more timely articles.


  1. Am feeling strong and encouraged those regret letters are not easy to read especially when they come several times your way. Thanks for sharing

    • Thanks Reagan,
      We are glad you are strong now ready to go back in the ring and fight.
      We will keep on sharing to encourage you and all our audience when such predicament falls how best you can get back again.

  2. I feel relieved coz have experienced a job rejection and i was very disappointed but now i will not lose hope but pull up my socks wea have went wrong n keep on trying

    • Hi Zainabu,
      We are glad you realised your mistakes and you now know what you need to work on to avoid to repeat the same mistakes.


  3. this piece is really encouraging, many a times one tends to feel that they are the ones with a problem thus low self confidence to even attempt for another job application.

    • Thanks Peggie,
      We are glad you noted that its not always you with the problem, but now that you know do follow the steps you read and you will avoid being rejected.

  4. This was a great eye opener. Keep enlighting us.would like to have my resume critiqued .I don’t wish to be wise in my own eyes.maybe one or two might be pointed out and might help me in my quest for a great career. Thanks in advance

    • Thanks Betty,
      Just go through a template we have that which will guide you how to edit and to know exactly what the employer looks for.
      Click here to view.


  5. Too bad when you make an application and no response at all.
    Is it possible for someone with a grade E that is scored E in a maths paper kcse be employed for an accountant position?
    Nb.after qualifying for all sections up to cpak but his/her maths gradr reads score E!

    • Yes you can faridah,
      Having scored an E doesn’t mean that you will be sidelined. How you perform in an interview and also your credentials(cv and cover letter) are the ones that really matter.
      Just work on the two and implement the tips you read here and you will be considered. Dont let your grades demoralize you.


  6. Just what I needed…I am so demoralised after my spirits being raised in a dream job interview yet I never made it for the position I once held temporarily in the dream organisation…but like you said I will not be hard on myself,instead get ready for the next opportunity.

    • Yes Sophie you’ve said right, forget about the past move on and patiently wait for another opportunity because it will come.


  7. that was a great peace am scheduled for an interview yet to be confirmed dates which made me anxious but this has made my day having an open mind is all.

  8. Encouraging piece. Having received very many reject emails, I see a light at the end of my dark road. This article came at the right moment. Thank you

  9. Am happy you pple you’re remembering me.I stayed for some time without getting any job alert from you and kept asking myself is it that my profile is not of your std or I was locked out of job search.Anyway keep it up for the job you’re doing even tho I have never got any invitation for interview from your side.

    • Hi Obinica, We do understand your frustration however your profile and alert problem is nothing that you cant rectify. Review your profile and make sure its complete. subscribe a fresh to the jobs that matches your skills. Here is the link. Ensure that application is done immediately as soon as you get the email alerts. feel free to write to us if you experience any challenges with our platform.


  10. How of relevance,to be denied an opportunity in your specialised area of study n secure another chance in area uv never studied?Has it guarantee 2 future employment in your area of study?

    • Hi Lucas,
      In some cases you may find yourself working in a field that you are not specialized but this should not discourage you because being denied doesn’t mean that your future is at stake, you must make the best out of that job because there others currently who would give anything to be where you are so specialty or not appreciate where you are working. But if inwardly you feel it is not for you, then let nothing withhold you, pursue that dream job you desire most.

  11. Its real yes I had one reject BT I never got discouraged. BT its encouraging cz up to now I thought It was me only

    • Hi Caroline
      We are glad you now know where you went wrong.
      Keep it here and you will be getting more tips on how to increase your chances of being considered.


  12. Thanks for the post. I used to replay interviews in my mind but didn’t dig deeper. From the post, am more enlighted. Asanti.

  13. it’s a masterpiece and an eye opener . have do had such instances of being shortlisted and at the end of the day getting regret letter and or email but have never considered writing an email to show gratitude and interest to work for the company in the future just in case there is future prospect of the having similar this we totally fail and to majority of us it’s not a focus more so the post interview failure to get the job compounds the problem
    thanks for that

  14. Very positive feedback.Have been to interviews that were picture perfect.When no feedback comes after the interview,was naturally anxious and tense.Learnt now there are always factors that pre determine the outcome.Still determined to progress.Provide more feedback on how best to answer this q,s..”tell me about yourself”.regards

  15. This is very informative. I have learnt a lot because sometimes you get a rejection and you can easily be depressed or lower your self esteem. Good job

  16. Thanks a lot for this information, I am really cheered up after an interview that i thought it was a 100% employment only to receive a rejection mail. Thank you

    • Hi Sharon,

      We are glad that our article is of great value to you. We encourage you to stay positive and focused. Infact, it is one of good opportunities to know that you qualified and was shortlisted for the interview because not so many get through this point.

      We always advise candidates to continue develop themselves and their skills in what the employers were looking for. ^AN

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